The Five Biggest Regrets of Those Facing Death

I don’t talk about my time working as a nurse often.

This is because my life has moved in a different direction since I entered the world of business.

Though I have worked with thousands of people facing imminent death, and many who have had a near death experience.

This is a truly fascinating topic and one that will be relevant to you at some stage of your life, if it hasn’t been already.

In all of the posts and insights I have ever shared, the single post and video I recorded on facing death have both generated more views and comments than every other post and video I’ve ever released.

My post on Quora has had over 500k views.

And my video on Youtube has had 30k views

Recently I’ve had cause to revisit this eerily dark and often taboo topic.

On that basis I shall share the key learnings I’ve had in navigating this very difficult time.

1. Unresolved issues will manifest into suffering during your final moments.

Guilt, anger, hatred and repressed sentiments will hit you like a boomerang. All of your issues with others will come back to cause you suffering.

On that basis, it’s better to speak your mind now than carry the pain for later. This includes being at the death bed of someone close to you. 

If you have things to get off your chest, do it while you can or the negative energy of unexpressed issues will live on within you, and manifest in pain and suffering in your own life.

As a hopeful note: it is possible to release this if the person you had the issue with is already dead. It takes a very skilled practitioner to help you navigate this but it is possible.

2. The biggest regrets are the things that people didn’t do, rather than what they did.

I have yet to speak with someone at the end of life that had a major regret over something they did. 

Even if you do something that doesn’t turn out well, there is time to do something about it during life.

Not taking more risks, not following your heart, and believing those who advised you to do something you didn’t want to do are things that always come back to bite you.

So be your own boss and do what makes you happy while you still can.

3. Sacrificing happiness now with the promise of a better future

So many people get caught in the happy retirement myth. 

They sacrifice the healthiest years of their lives with the belief that it will be worth it in the future.

For many this future never exists.

Because their health gets worse.

So it’s best to do things that make you happy now before it’s too late.

4. Putting other people’s needs before your own.

People with high empathy will often reflect at the end of their lives on pointless attempts to keep others happy at the expense of their own happiness. 

This is amplifies when empaths spend too long in relationships with partners who lack empathy: narcissits, psychopaths and sociopaths.

These personality types often flit between your best friend and worst enemy, thus confusing and frustrating empaths.

The realisation of their futile path in attempting to please others first is often a tough pill to take at the end of life.

5. Not connecting to a purpose bigger than that of yourself or your family

This is probably the biggest one of all.

So many parents make their life purpose making sure their kids do well.

What exactly doing well means in this context is relative and very subjective.

However, the energy of it tends to deflect from their own life and project their aspirations onto the next generation.

And this complex dynamic tends to mess people up.

This is why having a purpose beyond your family is so important.

But what could that be?

Maybe it’s a desire to help others less fortunate than yourself.

Or make the world a little safer.

Or help good causes close to your heart.

Whatever it is, it must not be dependent on the actions of others.

Because expectations of others quite often lead to disappointment.

Whatever it is you are feeling a strong connection to, it’s your actions that will dictate your happiness at the end of life.

Regardless what anyone else does.

This final one is perhaps the hardest to achieve.

But if you get this one right, nobody can influence your life journey in anything but a positive way.

But I should warn you that I did not meet many people who truly felt this.

I didn’t keep stats on it but it was definitely less than 5% of those I worked with.

I hope that by sharing this, it will plant a seed of insight within you that will help you to be one of those rare people who have a truly peaceful death, having lived a fulfilling life.

And if you want help exploring that, join my newsletter and/or get in touch and I’ll help you.

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